Long-distance relationships can be a scary adventure. As someone who is in a long-distance relationship, I understand how challenging they can be at times, but that doesn’t mean they have to crash and burn. Many long-distance relationships can prosper and grow into healthy lifelong relationships. Here are eight tips to build a successful long-distance relationship I’ve found to be beneficial:
1. Trust your partner
Trust is fundamental in any relationship, but it’s certainly at the core of a long-distance relationship. Since you cannot be with one another on a day to day basis trusting each other to be honest with one another is important. Jealously can overrun a long-distance relationship. Due to the distance, there can be many attractions that pull you away, but if you both trust in the love that pulled you together, you’ll be just fine.
2. Communicate your feelings
Communication can be tricky, especially when your trying to convey your deepest desires and wants in life in thirty phone calls or quick texts. But by being honest with yourself and your partner, you’ll not only gain insight into yourself, but you’ll grow in the relationship too. Also, if your feeling like there’s a lack of communication try planning a day where you two always talk no matter what happens. Even if there’s an impromptu meeting or an exam scheduled there’s at least some texts traded back an forth or a couple of minutes on facetime. Just because life happens doesn’t mean your personal life has to be forgotten about.
3. Plan your next date
Planning dates are essential for long-distance relationships. Due to traveling, work, schooling or other matters most of the time it’s difficult to see one another face to face. But if you plan ahead of time and even more so, if you plan right after a date to have another you can always have a time schedule to see each other. While it might not be for very long, it’s a chance to enjoy each other’s company, and I don’t know about you, but for me, that’s enough.
4. Do your own thing
Just because you’re in a long-distance relationship doesn’t mean you have to put your life on hold for someone else. In fact, instead of concentrating your efforts solely on the relationship you should follow your dreams and go after you wildest aspirations for your future. One of the most amazing benefits of being in a long-distance relationship is the freedom of independency while being loved. You’ll both grow and change from the challenges you face on a daily basis, but due to the support you give one another, you’ll love each other like no other!
5. Do activities you can do together
Sometimes it can feel like your here, and your partner is a thousand miles away, and there’s nothing you can do it about it. While you can’t be in two places at once, you can do some activities together. Whether it’s reading a book, you both like and discussing it afterward, watching a tv show at the same time, playing a video game together, or even playing online trivia. Some activities withstand long-distances and make it fun for both you and your partner.
6. Have fun long-distance style
Long-distance relationships can take a toll on your sex drive depending on the time period you see one another. But that doesn’t mean you can’t have fun in other ways. Skype can be a pretty useful tool for late-night chats, and even though it can buffer from time to time, you might find it to be perfect for when you need a little pick me up. If Skype isn’t your thing, there are plenty of other options available for you and your significant other.
7. Remember the good times
Among the hustle and bustle of work or school, it’s important to remember the good times of the relationship. You may experience bumps along the road as all couples fight from time to time. But looking at the positives instead of the negative aspects of the relationship will give you an optimistic outlook. Remember the reasons why you love one another and the reasons why you want to be together instead of past fights and squabbles. If you focus on your love for one another, then it will be hard to break it apart.
8. Sit back and enjoy
Too often we analyze or try to pick apart situations in order to better understand them. But with a relationship sometimes it’s best to simply sit back and enjoy one another. Long-distance relationships are no different, while they have a lot of back in forth motion due to the coming and going, however when it works it works. Embrace your independence, enjoy your love, and have fun at least that’s what I plan to do.
Now off you go, you lovebirds may you have a long, and happy relationship!